Outside the Box
Connecting through the written word.
October 13, 2026
“We must not die until we have explained ourselves to each other.”
These words were penned by John Adams in correspondence to Thomas Jefferson as they began a discussion that would last some 15 years, comprised of more than 150 letters as the two former presidents set aside their differences in search of reconciliation.
Prior to the bitterness of the 1800 presidential election in which Jefferson would oust Adams from the office, these two founders of our republic had exchanged more than 300 letters. Taken in total, Jefferson and Adams exchanged nearly 500 letters of substance before their deaths on July 4, 1826, the 50th anniversary of the signing of our Declaration of Independence.
Adams’ last words were, “Jefferson yet lives,” not knowing that his friend had passed some five hours earlier. They had shared a remarkable and complex relationship framed by an extraordinary effort to communicate their vision, beliefs and thoughts on a wide array of subjects. That those letters were preserved for history suggests they were treasured and meaningful to both the sender and the recipient.
Learn from example
What lessons are to be gleaned from their example?
- Great relationships are cultivated with an investment of thoughtful effort applied consistently.
- Relationship-building communication requires clarity, depth, inquisitiveness and openness.
- An exchange of ideas, concepts, perspectives and vision through thoughtfully constructed letters has tremendous potential for good.
Relationship-building communication requires clarity, depth, inquisitiveness and openness.
Slow it down
In an age where speed, brevity and urgency seem omnipotent, our greatest opportunity may be to slow down the cadence, gather our thoughts, relearn patience, pick up the pen, and invest time and intent in the crafting of letters.
The following five categories of correspondence are critical to the advancement of an enterprise:
- Affirmation: We have the capacity to lessen the burden of others by offering words of affirmation that lift their courage and determination — be it family, employees, customers, vendors or the kid next door. Crafting words of affirmation feeds an abundance mindset in both the sender and the recipient.
- Apology: Despite our best efforts, we make mistakes and come up short. In an era when trust levels are lagging, individuals and organizations that sincerely own their mistakes are setting the stage for loyalty while providing an accountability model employees and customers can embrace.
- Consultation: A mentor once advised me that an offering of advice may prove to be risky business. Mastering the ability to provide credible, sound consultation constrained with the self-awareness to know the limits of our wisdom increase confidence and avoids the dangers of one-size-fits-all approaches or making promises that are not kept.
- Inquiry: Asking for advice or connection to resource providers can be difficult as it opens us to vulnerability. We often become fearful that asking for advice, information, perspective or help somehow signals to the world that we are inept or weak. Making the ask for advice and constructive critique is a critical step in discovery and is often the catalytic event that unlocks the full potential of an idea or enterprise.
- Introduction: Creating connections between people is a generous and noble act. Connecting others within and beyond our network yields both direct and indirect value. While individual talent is important, those who cultivate and build wide-ranging networks are force multipliers.
A challenge
Allow me to offer a challenge during the winter months: Write one letter a week in your own hand. Start with something straightforward, such as a thank-you note; and then graduate into the categories described above. Spend no time stressing about form, style or even punctuation. Length matters not, only that you took the time to write.
While the effect on the recipient may be difficult to measure in the short term, perhaps the true benefit falls to the author — a reminder about events, experiences and people who have mattered.
Editor’s note: In “Outside the Box,” a regular, separate column in both the Angus Journal® and the Angus Beef Bulletin, author Tom Field shares his experience as a cattleman and his insightful perspective on the business aspects of ranching. Field is director of the Engler Agribusiness Entrepreneurship Program at the University of Nebraska–Lincoln, where he holds the Paul Engler Chair of Agribusiness Entrepreneurship.